Self Care

6 Ways to Listen to Your Intuition

Life will bring us to many cross roads.

Sometimes, our first instinct will be to seek external guidance to lead us the “right” way. Often, we grasp desperately for someone else to simplify our decisions for us.

If you learn to turn inwards, you’ll discover, if you haven’t already, that you’ve possessed a powerful guidance system within you all along.

We are all blessed with an intuitive guidance system and the more we learn to listen to it and use it, the more confident and tactful we will become at reassuring ourselves as we dance with the unraveling of our journeys.

So intuition… what exactly is it and how do I get one?

Thankfully, we all come equipped with one. Many of us may already have a strong connection with it, while many of us are unaware that we have within us an inner wisdom that is always on our side.

Your intuition is the divine intelligence that continuously guides you in realizing and actualizing your goals. It is the immediate knowledge of exactly what to do and can gracefully guide you in all of your choices throughout your life.

Divine wisdom. Internal knowledge. Guiding force. Higher self.

Delve into these thoughts and considerations to better know your own inner wisdom and begin to better trust yourself and your direction today.

1. Trust Your Gut

We all know the sensation of when something doesn’t feel right. When our circumstances are just wrong, it’s common to feel a strong urge or twisting of our gut.

This is often the most obvious if not first telltale sign that our intuition is tugging at the sleeve of our attention.

We all possess great emotional intelligence. Our feelings and emotional reactions are often communicating to us how to approach or interact with any given situation.

It can sometimes be very easy to ignore your feelings and push them away.

We might push those gut feelings aside and take what may seem like the easier option because we’re afraid of failure, changing direction, and saying no.

If something doesn’t feel good, right or just simply off, perhaps your gut is telling you it’s time for a change.

Be honest with yourself and acknowledge those unsettled feelings; they are there to guide and support you.

Listen to them.

Go with your gut. Follow the hunches until your situation feels right again.

When you do, you may find your emotional body reacting with happiness, ease and confidence, even if the choice does not seem rational.

Trust your emotional compass. How you feel is your greatest indicator of whether your choices are in alignment with your intuitive wisdom or not.

2. Follow Energy Shifts

Sometimes we can wrestle with the question of whether we made the right choice or not, lingering and obsessing over it well after we took action.

One way to measure whether you’ve acted in accordance to your intrinsic knowledge or not is to tune into your energy levels.

Chances are you’ve experienced the feeling of having a weight lifted from your shoulders immediately after making a long-awaited decision. Maybe you sensed a return of joy or energy, charisma and physical stamina that you had felt severed from for some time.

If these shifts are present, rejoice in the knowing that you have acted from a place of alignment with your higher, true self.

3. Tune To Your Body

Is a recurring situation in your life triggering a tight feeling in your chest? Or maybe there’s a circumstance that sparks that sinking, churning feeling in your stomach.

If your reality isn’t paralleled to your innermost longings, your intuition will use your physical body as a medium to bring your attention to what desperately wants to be seen.

As many of us have a tendency to ignore our internal guidance system, the repressed messages will develop into more severe symptoms… anything from anxiety and depression, fatigue, migraines, nausea and other physical ailments.

If we are not willing to open ourselves to reoccurring thoughts, strong internal pulls and persistent callings, our intuition will use physical signs to communicate that we are not living in integrity with the life we know we want and deserve.

What are you experiencing in your body? And what is it trying to communicate to you? What, if any, repressed messages, urges and needs are underlying the physical discomfort you may be experiencing in your life?

Open yourself to positive, curious inquiry with the knowing that you intuitively hold the knowledge to be your own healer and transform your life.

4. Pay Attention to the Synchronicities

When we lead a life in alignment with our greatest potential and development, the Universe will frequently gift us with signs of assurance.

Be open to what life presents on your path.

As we dream, manifest and shoot off rockets of desires through our thoughts and beliefs, the Universe supports us in turn by sending us the circumstances, people, opportunities and situations that will bring our advancement in life.

Be present in your day-to-day activities so that you can see the meaningful patterns and coincidences when they occur.

These signs can be messages from your higher self that you are on the right path.

5. Get Quiet

In our world of constant content bombardment and multiple forces grabbing for our attention, it can become challenging to tap into the voice or sensation of our intuition.

When we are up against making a decision, it’s important to create room for clarity. When you allow your mind to rest, the mud of many thoughts settles, and your mind becomes an open and clear channel for your thoughts and emotions to flow through.

Step away from your current situation and bring yourself to a state of mind and location where you can decompress. Dissolve any sense of pressure, anxiousness or tension that maybe present by focusing on deep, elongated breaths.

Let the clouds dissipate from your mind.

Quiet the mind to make room for clarity.

In this spaciousness, we can dissolve the clutter of our fears, insecurities, doubts and uncertainty to hear the deep, confident, clear knowing of our inner wisdom.

In this expansiveness, you have the lucidity necessary to listen, with all your might, to what your heart and soul is telling you.

Even if you are not pressed to make a difficult choice in your life, making it a regular practice to quiet the mind is a steadfast approach to deepening your connection with your intuition.
Make space to get quiet and listen to the words and callings of your heart song.

6. Do Your Shadow Work

“You will never follow your own inner voice until you clear up the doubts in your mind.”–Roy T. Bennett

In order for us to experience a clear, uninterrupted dialogue with our intuition, we must clear, touch and heal the parts of ourselves we would rather pretend did not exist.

The shadow is a term coined by psychologist Carl Jung, and it refers to our deepest wounds.

The wounds that have us believing we are flawed, unlovable, undeserving people.

Shadow work can support you in embracing all aspects of yourself. This experience of self-acceptance is essential for you to love and trust yourself more, which puts you more in touch with your intuition.

By communing with the aspects of ourselves that we attempt to reject and hide, we heighten our awareness of their habitual patterns and thoughts. In regards to tapping into our intuitive powers, this awareness will allow us to skillfully decipher between limiting beliefs, judgments and criticisms from the internal guide that is edging us towards appropriate discernment and caution.

As we venture down the path of healing our shadow self and touching past wounds that may project our history onto our present moment, we heighten our ability to decipher between pained, habitual thinking and our inner wisdom illuminating our path.


The Path of the Intuitive

Taking the steps and efforts to cultivate a more intimate relationship with our inner guidance and wisdom is a journey of self-exploration and empowerment.

  • Honing into and honoring the signs from your emotional body
  • Investigating potential underlying stories and triggers of physical ailments
  • Marveling at the magical coincidences of your life
  • Making time to clear mental chatter to deeply listen to your inner desires
  • Bringing healing love to unprocessed wounds

Honoring the process of deepening our relationship with our intuition is a journey towards living a more rich, meaningful and connected life.

Your magic and potential expand far beyond your comprehension.

In your pursuit of a purposeful, more aligned and intentional connection with your intuition, the all knowing higher self, you will uncover a greater peace, trust and acceptance of the unfolding of your life’s journey.

You possess all the reassurance, encouragement and answers to all your questions.
All you need to do is look inside.

“Intuition is the whisper of the soul.” –Jiddu Krishnamurti

25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years

In celebration of beginning my 25th year on earth, I thought it’d be fun to share some lessons that I’ve learned throughout the past 25 years.

1. You don’t need the approval of others in order to pursue your dreams

2. Filling your stomach with food does not fulfill what’s missing in your life

3. Morning exercise fills you with LIFE

4. Beating yourself up for making mistakes doesn’t improve the situation

5. You need 8-10 hours of sleep at night to feel well rested + energized (and that’s ok)

6. Alcohol is not your friend

7. It’s ok to slow down and take days off

8. Be discerning as much as you are strong>trusting

9. Money is a form of energy — it is our intention behind it that matters the most

10. Make sure you spend time with loved ones + friends. Meaningful social interaction is vital to your well being and growth

11. Self harm does not solve your problems but self care does

12. You are not your physical body or your thoughts – you are the pure awareness of these things

13. DRINK WATER

14. Gratitude is the key to happiness… Life is whatever our perspective is of it (we can see our problems as a mistake or a learning opportunity)

15. Your age is not a limiting factor

16. Life is merely a game — try not to take things too seriously

17. You can do, create, and cultivate anything that you want. The only limitations are the ones you create and allow to flourish in your mind.

18. With new travels comes new wisdom

19. Less material belongings + online content consumption allows for more mental clarity

20. It’s ok to change your mind… change = growth.

21. You don’t need to take on every challenge that interests you

22. It’s not about the outcome – it’s about the journey

23. You don’t need to try and save everybody… Sometimes this is just enabling them to rely on others rather than taking the initiative to change their life for themself.

24. Everyone is experiencing their own battle – be understanding & send them love

25. Your intuition always has your best interest in heart. Listen.

Thank you for being here. Thank you for supporting me on my journey through life. Thank you for showing up every day and putting forth the effort to learn, grow, + further connect to your highest self. We are in this together and I am always here to support you in choosing the path that leads to more fulfillment, abundance, + service to others.

When we rise as individuals, we naturally rise as a collective.

With unconditional love,
– Alyse

Mold Illness + Candida Overgrowth: My Story

I want to start this off with full transparency.. I’ve been putting off writing this blog post for months now. I kept telling myself ‘I can’t share my story until I am on the other side of this and I’ve fully overcome everything’. But your messages keep flooding my inbox asking what I’m doing to detox + heal myself naturally and I can’t deny that when I was in the depths of my health struggles, I wished I had a blog post like this to turn to for guidance and support.

If you’re reading this right now, chances are that you or someone close to you is currently dealing with mold exposure or candida overgrowth. And so my friend, this blog post is for you.

I must first disclose that I am a certified Holistic Health Coach with The Institute For Integrative Nutrition. I am not a medical doctor nor a naturopath (though I have worked closely with both for the past 6 months). I am also not giving health advice in this post. I am simply sharing my story and all that I have learned from battling these health conditions for the past 2 years of my life.

Ok, here we go.

The Background Story

From 2014 – 2016 I followed a primarily raw vegan diet, high in fresh fruits + vegetables. I’m not going to lie, when I first went raw, I felt an insanely positive shift in the way that I felt compared to the standard American diet I was consuming prior. My diet was pretty high in carbohydrates and I remember learning from people in the HCLF (High Carb, Low Fat) movement that the human body functions optimally on this diet because it runs on glucose. It made sense to me at the time and so I continued down that path for a couple of years, convinced that I was nourishing my body in the best way possible.

Flash forward to 2015 when I first moved to The Big Island of Hawaii. I landed on a fruit farm called Kanekiki where I lived in a small screened hut deep in the rainforest. I remember one of the first things I was told when I arrived was that I had to store my clothing and all personal belongings in an airtight plastic bin that was provided for me there. Everyone at the farm was encouraged to do this because mold was a massive problem in this damp, humid part of the island.

The first real sign of my sensitivity was shown to me when I was experiencing some congestion whilst living on the farm… Nothing too serious but it was definitely more than I had ever felt in my life up until that point. I infer the reason it wasn’t too, too bad was that the hut I slept in had constant airflow since it was screened in so there wasn’t the ability for the mold particles to be stagnant in the air as they would be if the room was enclosed.

After 3 months living in the hut, I moved into a utility van because it was a dream of mine to travel around the island and be completely location independent. When packing up my belongings, I remember being completely amazed by the fact that the few items that I did not store in the airtight container were legitimately covered in mold. This is something I never knew was possible until I was exposed to life in the jungle.

When I moved into the van, this is when I really started to notice my allergies take a turn for the worse. There were so many days that I was completely overtaken by sneeze attacks, itchy eyes, congestion, and brain fog. Though since I was living in the van, I did also spend so much time out and about, exploring the island. After a couple of weeks I started to notice that my allergies were related to being INside the van. I ended up staying in the van for 3 months. Saying goodbye to van life was initiated by my chronic allergies that were heavily impacting my day to day life.

After the van, I moved into an air conditioned apartment on the sunny, dry side of Big Island and my symptoms immediately improved. The van was still my only mode of transportation so I was still inside of it often and therefore did still experience ‘allergy attacks’ every now and then. A few months went by, I was feeling way better, but definitely not thriving. I decided to move back to the rainy side of the island because all of my friends lived over there. My congestion returned, and grew stronger. Keep in mind, I am still eating a diet very high in fruit at this time. The home I moved into was a fairly old home and very close to the ocean. During the 6 months that I lived in this space, I remember feeling like I was constantly sick with a cold or allergies but I had no idea what was causing it.

I started juicing a ton, trying to eat as “pure” as I possibly could to fight off the symptoms I was experiencing. But no amount of juicing or clean eating helped. I took prescription strength over the counter allergy medicine daily for 2 months straight (don’t recommend this) and it helped keep my allergies at a livable level until my body built up a tolerance and it no longer made an impact for me. I was also experiencing HIGH levels of emotional stress at this time (relationship probs) – which looking back on now I see how this was the perfect breeding ground for everything to flourish.

High amounts of sugar, High amounts of stress, + High amounts of environmental toxins (mold) are some of the top contributors to candida overgrowth in the body. And lucky me, I had all three.

After 6 months of living in this home I was reaching a point of extreme confusion and frustration with my health (or lack thereof). I thought I was doing everything right.. Eating clean, working out, plenty of water + sleep. But my health was deteriorating and I had no clue why. Was is pollen from Hawaii? Was it the vog in the air (volcanic smog)?

I flew to Connecticut to stay with my parents for a few weeks while I prepared to hike the Appalachian Trail. (Yes, if you couldn’t tell already, I genuinely enjoy adventures, new homes, + fresh starts). I thought for SURE when I left Hawaii my allergies MUST go away. But no, they remained. I started to feel hopeless. I struggled with chronic sinus congestion, headaches, and brain fog for the entire 3 months that I was hiking the trail. Thankfully my sinuses would clear out when my heart rate was up — so while I was hiking I felt fine. But as soon as I got to camp at the end of the day, the congestion would return full force and I could only breathe out of my mouth. This made eating, sleeping, and communicating with others extremely unpleasant and I started to feel more and more isolated over time.

When I returned to Hawaii after the trail, I moved into a brand new home overlooking the ocean (again, on the rainy side). My body was oddly not craving fruit like I imagined it would when I stopped eating tons of dehydrated hiker meals. Instead, I was intensely wanting TONS of greens and healthy fats. So as an advocate for intuition, I listened. My diet changed drastically. I began eating an abundance of greens both cooked and raw (lettuce, spinach, kale, collards, etc.) and my main calorie sources became avocados and cashews. Within one week of being off the trail and on this new way of eating, I felt the best I had in well over a year. So naturally, I continued to eat this way. I honestly felt incredible for a few months… until we approached the rainy season. This is when everything started to go downhill… fast.

The Escalation

With rainy season, comes mold. Living directly next to the ocean alone leads to an extreme amount of humidity.. But add relentless rain on top of that and you have the perfect environment for mold to grow. Hilo, Hawaii is the rainiest city in America (yup, even beats Seattle). It gets between 150 – 250 inches of rainfall each year, most of which is between December + March. The precipitation level inside my home was always 80-90% humidity.. And would get down to 70% with a dehumidifier. Mold became visible in the home in December of 2017 and this is when my symptoms began to multiply and intensify…

The Darkest Point

Over the next few months my health deteriorated and left me feeling completely hopeless. Most days, I fought through it, determined to keep my business running and keep shining light into the lives of others. Little did anyone know that I was struggling to take care of myself behind the scenes. I still didn’t know that mold was one of the main culprits, but I did know that it certainly wasn’t helping either. My boyfriend at the time started cleaning our entire 3 bedroom house on a daily basis in attempt to make the home environment a little better for my symptoms. He would wash the floors, counters, windows, doors, door frames, trim, and wash our bedding religiously too. But even with all of this cleaning, I was still deeply suffering.

My symptoms were no longer just chronic sinus congestion, headaches, and brain fog. But I was now also experiencing appetite loss, nausea, migraines, inability to articulate myself, and memory loss. I felt like I was losing my mind. I felt like a zombie unable to experience life. I felt like I lost my personality. I was too dazed and confused to take care of myself. I spent many days struggling to work behind a computer screen and it seemed like everything I accomplished took 10x longer than it used to when I was healthy. There were also many days that I couldn’t do anything at all. I would wake up in the morning feeling like I was legitimately dying. The pressure in my head and face was too painful to speak, go out in public, or even function in my own home. Towards the end of my time in this home, there were many days that I was bedridden. I would try to research in attempt to find out what was going wrong. But this process was not easy in the physical and mental state that I was in.. which just continued the cycle of suffering.

The Epiphany

It wasn’t until I took a trip to visit a friend in Ohio that I realized what was going on. In the 5 days that I spent out of my Hawaii home my symptoms improved slightly and I received enough clarity to question if maybe it was my home environment that was contributing to my decline in health.

Within 10 minutes of walking back into my home my symptoms came back full force. It was now clear. I bought at-home mold tests (petri dishes) and collected the air in my home, let it sit for 5 days, and then sent it in to be tested at a lab. The results really put things into perspective for me. There were 3 toxic molds airborne in my home. Cladosporium, Geotrichum, and Penicillium. With the little insight that I currently had surrounding mold, I was determined to learn more + conquer this. But to my dismay, it was not as easy as I thought it would be.

The Remedy
Some of the things that I implemented immediately in attempt to remediate the mold:

  • Ozone Machine (kills mold + mildew + purifies the air)
  • Dehumidifier (pulls humidity out of the air, making it harder for mold to grow)
  • Ozone Bath (skin detoxification + accelerates healing)
  • Hyperbaric Chamber (stimulates blood flow, increases oxygen concentration in cells)
  • Infrared Sauna (skin detoxification + stimulates circulation)

After a few weeks of implementing these techniques/practices I received little to no relief with my symptoms. This led me to wonder what else was involved. If I was doing all that I could to remedy my external environment, maybe I needed to also make some changes with my internal environment. What else could I change in my diet to assist my healing? I started to research about how diet + mold allergies are intertwined and to my surprise there were SO many resources online pointing me in the direction of ‘the mold diet’. I dug deeper + started to implement it.

The main things that I was eating that were not a part of the mold diet were nuts (because unless stored properly, nuts often become moldy before we consume them, in my case, this was furthering my symptoms by feeding the fungus within my digestive system). I removed nuts from my diet and experience a little bit of relief but not too much… I knew that if I really wanted to get better I needed to make some bigger decisions.

  1. I had to move out.
  2. I had to seek professional help.

To me, moving out didn’t mean just finding another home in Hilo, Hawaii… because literally all of my friends’ homes had mold in them too – everywhere on the rainy side did. I wasn’t about to take a chance in another Hawaii home. I potentially could have moved back to the sunny side of Big I. but there were currently high levels of vog from the volcano that just started erupting again. I knew that if I really wanted to give myself a good shot at healing I needed to move somewhere with extremely clean and dry air. Within a matter of days I found an apartment to move to and booked my flights to Colorado. I couldn’t believe my time in Hawaii was coming to an end… but I didn’t see any other option.

The Detox

Around the same time I moved I also started working with a Naturopath, Jaqi. She works side by side with a medical doctor and is very science based in her approach. From the first call I had with her I felt supported and reinspired in a new way to gain my health and vitality back. We started with a full panel of blood work + blood analysis under a microscope — which both provide deeper insight into what was going on than my symptoms alone could provide.

Basically, my health was a mess.

My candida levels were through the roof. Hormones were out of balance.

And I was either low or “low normal” with pretty much everything else…

There was a lot of work to be done.

I started following a nutrition and supplement protocol specific to my blood test results and began feeling better within a matter of DAYS. I was hooked, and eager to stick to the protocol and watch my health improve before my eyes. After around one month my congestion was almost entirely gone. I could breathe through my nose for the first time in years! My appetite was coming back, and cognitive function too. I still didn’t feel entirely back to my pre-mold illness self but I was definitely making progress, and it was happening fast. After 3 months of sticking to my mold free diet and taking my supplements routinely, I felt unstoppable. I received another full panel of blood work and was literally head over heels excited to know that my candida levels had gone from HIGH infection to no infection, and almost all other levels had improved as well. I was ecstatic to have proof that I was successfully healing.

The Relapse

Little did I know how sensitive my body still was to mold. I thought for sure if my blood work showed how much I improved, I would be fine to return to Hawaii for a short trip. I was so, so wrong.

I flew to Maui for 4 days and stayed on the sunny side while I was there. I felt entirely fine and was honestly just blissed out to be back on the islands. Then, I flew to Big I. where I stayed back in Hilo with some friends for 5 days. It wasn’t more than 10 minutes after walking into my friends home that I had an insane headache, unbearable congestion, debilitating face pressure and good ole’ brain fog. My heart broke. How could this be? My health had improved so much! Why were my symptoms SO intense? I immediately texted my naturopath for advice. She advised me to alternate through a few supplements that help pull out toxins. I did this right away and it relieved my symptoms within 30 minutes. Thank. God. But after a couple of days went by everything crept back in. I was a mess. And so disheartened.

The Surrender

On the flight from Hawaii back to Colorado I realized that I had to simply surrender. Feeling upset about what felt like a relapse was not going to help me get better. It was only keeping me stuck in negative emotions. Which we all know does nothing for healing — if anything, it just makes it more difficult.

I gave myself permission to feel sad for a little bit. But I knew I had to make peace with the fact that I’m not fully better yet. I had to remind myself that it’s ok I haven’t achieved optimal health. I had to comfort myself and lean towards positive emotions instead. So naturally, I shifted my focus to gratitude. I tried to think about alllll of the things that were going well for me. I felt so thankful that I made the decision to leave Hawaii when I did. I felt thankful that my blood work had improved. And I felt thankful that I had support along the way from Jaqi. No, I’m not where I want to be health wise — but I’m not where I used to be either.

One thing’s for sure is that I’m not giving up.

I feel more determined now than ever to break out and try new things. I am here to grow, evolve, and achieve optimal health. I’m currently feeling so inspired to learn more about the brain.. Neuroplasticity, neurotransmitters, mitochondrial stimulation, cognitive enhancements, and biohacking my health.

Every day I try to remind myself that my current struggles will one day be my greatest gifts.

I hope this story has helped you in some way or another. Whether it taught you something new, helped you understand your personal or friend’s diagnosis better, or by simply reminding you that you are not alone.

If you have any questions pertaining to my story please leave a comment down below and I will do my best to respond to as many as I can.

If you have a health condition that you are seeking support + guidance with, you can contact my naturopath here.

Sending you infinite love,

~ Alyse

5 Steps to Setting New Year’s Resolutions

For many of us, New Year’s Day represents a fresh start to ambitiously create the changes we hope to see in our life. With the previous year behind you, you may be feeling unstoppable in all that you desire to create.

In honing in on your heart song to decipher all that it is calling for this year to come, how can you best move forward to honor all it yearns for?

Sadly, most people who make resolutions, despite their initial determination and larger-than-life drive, abandon them well before the arrival of spring.

Your dreams and resolutions are far too important to watch them fizzle out without being actualized.

Follow these steps to create the positive habits necessary to see real changes in your life that stick!

Get Clear on Your Vision

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” Tony Robbins

Of course, the first step in advancing towards our goals is getting clear on our aim.

What is it that you want to create and foster in your life?

To support you in visualizing the goals you wish to achieve, consider what it is you hope to manifest in regards to these areas of your life:

  • Health
  • Environment
  • Career
  • Relationships
  • Home
  • Money

What does abundance look like in each area of your life?

I want you to daydream here. Imagine relevant, attainable goals that you can bring into fruition these coming months.

Think affirmatively.

Instead of approaching your goals setting with a mindset of what you’re trying to eliminate from your life, focus on what good you want to ADD to your life. This approach supports us in combating potential feelings of lack, scarcity, and deprivation on the road of achieving our greatness.

Allow yourself to visualize your greatest dreams without bounds or limitations.

As you paint a mental picture of your aspirations write them down in your journal, sketch it out, share it with a loved one who will support you in your process or create a dream board.

First Things First

Instead of pursuing resolutions with the mindset of achieving them cold turkey, understand that the positive changes you are striving to make in your life will be achieved as a gradual process.

Working against ingrained habits is a work in progress.

So eliminate the expectation for things to change overnight or immediately. Instead, tackle your resolutions through stages and steps, by first achieving baby steps that will better prepare you for the greater difficulties that come with the change.

For example, let’s say you set a goal to go to the gym every day beginning New Year’s Day. However, if you weren’t going to the gym at all previously, you may be setting yourself up for failure.

While I certainly will not stand in your way if your determination is driving you to such great heights, know that we are more likely to achieve our goals if we begin with feasible and palpable first steps.

For each goal category, write one tangible and achievable first step you can take towards your goal. Set realistic first steps knowing that each one you take brings you higher and higher up the mountain of habitual change.

How can you start today?

Assess Your Patterns

Despite our purest intentions and motivations, often, we find ourselves in patterns, environments, and situations that don’t support us in achieving our greatness.

Just like a seed planted into soil, we have infinite potential in our ability to grow and evolve.

However, if the circumstances aren’t ideal, just like a seed in poor soil, deprived of adequate water or sunlight, we’ll be limited in our capacity to blossom and flourish.

So ask yourself, do the people, places, and things you choose to surround yourself with support your goals?

If you’re striving to live a more aligned, balanced and healthy lifestyle, do the people you choose, the activities you share and the places you gather in reflect your visions of your optimal life?

If not, it may be prime time to reassess who and what you surround yourself with.

Have faith and trust that when your own words, actions, and choices align with and support your desired destination, you will attract and only accept the relationships, environment and past times that support you too.

“The people you surround yourself with are excellent mirrors for who you are and how much, or how little, you love yourself.” -Jen Sincero

Be Flexible

“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” –Confucius

If you are fluid versus rigid in your pursuit towards your greatness, you grant yourself the flexibility to adapt the path in which you actualize your resolutions. When being too rigid in our goals, if we fail to reach our initial expectations we are more likely to feel burdened with a sense of failure and quit before we truly ever begin.

For example, if your initial goal was to eat healthier by replacing one meal a day with a salad, but you find that you just can’t stand salad, instead of chucking out your resolution, find an alternative route to achieve it. There are many ways to actualize the goal of a healthier lifestyle, even if it’s not achieved the way you originally intended.

If you approach your desired changes through broad adjustments versus specific behaviors you’ll be able to experiment and adapt in the means in which you achieve your goals.

Give yourself permission to accommodate the path towards your objective as you go. Each step brings you closer to understanding what lasting change looks like for your unique life, desires, and ambitions.

Celebrate Your Progress

“By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you’ve achieved- and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses – you actually can enhance everything about you. Self-acknowledgement and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.” Jack Canfield

In the pursuit of our greatness, many of us fall prey to the critiques and heavy-handed judgments of our inner critics. While it’s more than acceptable to set our expectations and goals for ourselves as high bars to reach, it’s counterproductive and down-right unkind to beat ourselves up when we don’t reach our far-reaching destinations.

Put down the bat and pick up a feather.

There’s no joy on our journeys towards our highest selves if we can’t find room to celebrate our efforts along the way.

If you find yourself stuck in a spiral of self-criticism, take a glimpse in your rearview mirror, reflect on all that you’ve lived and all that you’ve conquered, and allow the sheer wonder of how far you’ve come to remind you of your capabilities.

Celebrate the small victories. Be gentle and encouraging to yourself. Be your number one fan and cheerleader.

On Your Way to Greatness

While creating the changes we wish to see in our lives can at times feel daunting, a skillful understanding of how we achieve it creates room for it to be an awe-provoking unraveling towards the highest version of ourselves.

Keep yourself anchored in the knowing that you are leading and living a life of growth and evolution. Contrary to what others may say or think, your life is not a sprint, but more like a marathon.

Can you pace yourself throughout the ebbs and flows of striving towards your ambitions? Can you love and embrace yourself through all the transitions and change? Can you cultivate earnest efforts, firmly built upon the confidence that the merit of your actions can and will bring results?

“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.” Les Brown

What is possible is only as infinite and expansive as you’re willing to allow yourself to dream.

Dream and vision without bounds. Surround yourself with the right conditions, people and practices to expedite your growth. Wrap yourself with your own words, thoughts, and actions of encouragement, appreciation, and love.

You are on your way, blossoming and unraveling into all you’ve always been designed to become.

Let’s make 2019 our best year yet!

Always Do Your Best: A Motto to Live By

Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you always tried your best, no more or no less.

Imagine for a moment the amount of mental and emotional energy you would save yourself by dissolving feelings of guilt, blame and self judgment.

Imagine for a moment the self-love, acceptance and celebration you welcome into your heart when you say no to feelings of regret and remorse.

Give yourself the assurance to embark on this journey of radical self-acceptance. Embrace and accept this invitation to put this simple, yet profound principle into practice to shift and transform the way you perceive and relate to your efforts.

If you always try your best, you can trust that its always enough.

Honor Where You’re At

Our best can and will change from moment to moment. Just like the ever-changing, impermanent nature of life, our capacity to kick-ass and take names will vary on many circumstances.

Our health, mood and energy levels will all influence what our best looks like at any given moment. At times our best may feel high quality, while others, not as much.

For instance, our energy first thing in the morning versus after a long day of work will yield different capacities for what our best looks like.

Learn and know that this is more than acceptable.

By always doing our best according to where we are at in this moment, we can strive and excel when we feel rested, healthy and powerful, while honoring our needs with cautious pace when we’re not feeling super charged.

By honoring our natural cycles of plowing forward and receding back for recuperation, we allow ourselves to live in accordance with our natural waxing and waning experience.

There are times and activities of speed and exhilaration that can multiply our enthusiasm and energy on some days, that can burn us out and leave us depleted at other times.

Tune in with what your best looks like at any given moment.

By doing so, you preserve your precious energy to excel in all you pursue with a greater care and attention to your sustainability and longevity. By doing so, you go with yourself instead of against.

Curb Your Inner Critic

So you were able to knock out a full-laundry list of chores in one morning, while juggling deadlines and showing up early for your business lunch?

Cut yourself some slack for not feeling mega juiced up to knock out more come the evening.

Put your foot down towards self-judgment and self-abuse.

Dismiss the inner critic that may size up and compare your previous performances and achievements. Understand and observe with skillful view that many of our habitual patterns have been firmly established through countless experiences and affirmations. We may not always create change or bring goals to fruition at the speed in which we desire, but we can always try our best.

Recognize your energy levels, mood, and the quality of your experience in your body (Are you feeling relaxed or tense?) as signals and communication from your body of what your needs are.

Don’t give your inner judgments permission to neglect and deny time for vital self-care and rejuvenation practices.

If you strive to do your best in each moment, you can eliminate the urge to judge yourself, dissolving needless blame, guilt and self-punishment.

When and if the inner critic rears its head, casting doubt and criticisms of your efforts, you know you’ve got the answer:

“I did my best, and that’s always enough.”

Dissolve Remorse

Your best is always enough.

Chances are, life has already dished out enough experiences to show you that things won’t always go the way we want them to. Despite the ebbs and flows of life not perfectly aligning with our preferences at all times, we are granted countless opportunities throughout our lives to show up to the best of our abilities.

From the easeful, joyous, celebration times to challenging, “didn’t see that coming”, bumps in the road, if we arrive to each moment of our life willing and able to do the best we can, we can dissolve any remorse or regret.

With this one simple truth, we can liberate ourselves from the mental bondage of self-accusation and regretfulness.

Give yourself permission to celebrate your earnest efforts in all circumstances and expressions of your life.

It is more than enough.

Inspired by Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.”

Mahalo,

Alyse

Why Loving Yourself Must Come First in Relationships

Many of us spend exuberant amounts of mental, physical, emotional and financial energy in our pursuit of achieving and sustaining long-lasting romantic relationships.

From day-dreaming of “the one,” consuming books, videos and articles on how to charm your “twin flame”, paying for online dating services and investing in cosmetics and apparel to lure and attract our prince or princess charming, the majority of us share this common thread of desire: we want love and we want it now.

We are tricked into believing that we should feel empty, undesirable or as if something is wrong with us if we live any extended period of our life being single.

We make the mistake going into relationships with the belief that someone else will resolve the feeling that something has been missing in our lives.

In no way am I saying the desire to meet someone compatible to our visions, dreams, values and pursuits to co-create our lives with is wrong.

To the contrary, I think a loving, supportive and accepting partnership that aids in our self-growth and development is one of the sweetest blessings to experience in this life.

I am simply saying that we shouldn’t accept misery and a sense of unrelenting attachment in our seeking.

Choose Yourself

When we look to a lover for feelings of security and affirmation, we actually deny ourselves the opportunity to gift those very things to ourselves.

Commit to yourself today.
Commit to waking up every morning and choosing you every single day.
Commit to accepting yourself radically and without condition.
Commit to seeing clearly your perfection and flawlessness in the very way you wish for a romantic partner to.

Ask yourself today:

  • What passions have you been neglecting?
  • In what ways could you better support your own growth of character?
  • What self-care practices have you read of but simply haven’t made the decision to incorporate into your life?
  • How can you love yourself better?

We attract what we are. We must become the very things we long for from a partner.

Make Yourself Your Greatest Lover

Instead of trying to control and manipulate the flow of life, attempting to force romance to surface at your will, what if you chose to instead cultivate yourself to be your greatest lover?

Trust that somewhere out in the world, the person or people who you will share legendary and life-changing love with already exist and chances are, they’re longing and dreaming of meeting you too.

In due time, likely when you least expect it, this chance meeting will occur. When it does, you’ll be able to present yourself as the fascinating, passionate, adventure-living, independent badass that you are, because instead of being the lonesome princess locked away in the tower awaiting her savior, you’ll be the captain of your own life, living with intention, joy and purpose.

Love Yourself Where You’re At

What does it mean to commit to yourself?

It means to create and build a relationship with yourself where you realize you are complete and whole as you are right now.

That there’s no man, woman, job or circumstance that can happen to you that will make you more whole, because you already are.

This means you’re going to love yourself right where you are… not when you score your dream job or lose ten pounds, but right now, already in your perfection.

This means you can and will forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Through this, you will learn that you are a person you can count on. You will realize that you’re the person that will always be there for you, until the end.

And through this you are able to love others exactly where they are, because you have learned how to first do that for yourself.

This kind of love, without expectation, demands or condition, is a force that will not only liberate and set yourself free, but your future beloved too.

It is the kind of love that allows others to feel safe to be exactly who they are, granting permission to let down their guards and be embraced and adored just as they are.

Mahalo,

Alyse

“Marry yourself first. Promise never to leave you!” -Sark