Palm Oil: The Hidden Monster in Your Processed Foods

Everyday, countless people stroll up and down grocery store aisles making selections to nourish themselves and their families.

We are highly influenced by the shapes, sizes, colors, and words that define these product brands. With time, we may even begin to establish an attachment to certain products, making our ritual market runs predictable and mindless.

In so many ways, we are deeply involved and invested in these choices, yet, how many of us actually know what goes into the products we support and where and how they are sourced?

Due to our rapid-paced, convenient-food culture, consumers tend to know very little or nothing about the products they’re purchasing, and companies know that most people do not care enough to make these corporations change their ways.

It is my hope to shed light onto one of the most destructive, non-sustainable food ingredients prevalent on our shelves today: palm oil.

It’s already well-known to be destructive on our environment and wildlife, yet somehow, this sneaky ingredient has managed to find its way into nearly fifty percent of packaged products in the US today.

  • Packaged noodles
  • Your favorite snack foods
  • Cereals
  • Washing detergents
  • Cosmetics
  • Hygiene products
  • ….and so much more

Why Should You Care?

  • Palm oil is now recognized as one of the leading causes of rainforest destruction as rampant plantation growth devastates some of the world’s most diverse ecosystems.
  • Palm oil is responsible for globally significant carbon pollution.
  • According to the World Wildlife Fund, an area equal the distance of 300 football fields of rainforest is destroyed each HOUR to create room for the palm oil industry.
  • Precious rainforests are burned in order to clear land for plantation development, adding to the already prevalent issue of human induced climate change.
  • The release of smoke into the atmosphere from these deforestation practices has given Indonesia the rank of the third highest ranking greenhouse emitter in the world.

These circumstances alone are enough to sound the alarm, but unfortunately, it’s just the beginning of the devastation.

Loss of Habitat

  • More than 190 threatened species are impacted by the palm oil industry’s deforestation practices. Some of the most vulnerable animals, such as the Sumatran Rhino, Sumatran Elephant and the Sumatran and Bornean orangutan are on the verge of extinction as their habitats are wiped away.
  • The orangutan, the irreplaceable poster-child for the anti-palm-oil industry, is predicted to become extinct in the wild within the next 5-10 years if we do not bring these practices to a halt. An estimated 1000-5000 orangutans are killed each year due to over 90% of their habitat being destroyed in the past 20 years. The United Nations has dubbed this situation a conservation emergency.

Our pleasure and modern-day consumer conveniences are occurring at the expense of our ecosystems, and these damages will be irreversible if we do not create change NOW.

Human Right Violations

  • Indigenous Peoples are forcefully removed from their communities and precious land.
  • Drinking water from streams and rivers that once provided clean hydration have dried up due to water being redirected and privatized by plantations.
  • Local people are deprived of opportunities to create alternative, environmentally sustainable businesses. This lack of economic potential adds pressure for local people to work for the very plantations that rob them, exposing them to hazardous conditions leading to long-term health impacts.
  • Child labor and modern-day slavery still occur on these plantations. This is a very real issue.

What You Can Do

So why am I telling you all of this? Because sadly, we’re the ones paying for it.

  • Get clear and real on what the true cost of our purchases are by researching everything. The industries are deliberately and effectively omitting the truth from us, and it's our job to put the time in to look for the truth.
  • Shine the light of awareness on this issue by talking and writing about it (with love, not judgment, please).
  • Spend money only on products that come from industries that align with our values to protect the planet, its precious creatures and each other.

Too often, we are lead to believe that our individual choices are too small to make a difference. But united as consumers, we have the ability to shift our consumerism landscape to trend towards longevity, sustainability and integrity for all.

Spread the word. Share this article. Support this issue coming into the collective awareness by sharing it in dialogue or in social media. And most importantly, leave palm oil products out of your shopping cart.

Join me in saying “no” to palm oil.

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Always Do Your Best: A Motto to Live By

Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you always tried your best, no more or no less.

Imagine for a moment the amount of mental and emotional energy you would save yourself by dissolving feelings of guilt, blame and self judgment.

Imagine for a moment the self-love, acceptance and celebration you welcome into your heart when you say no to feelings of regret and remorse.

Give yourself the assurance to embark on this journey of radical self-acceptance. Embrace and accept this invitation to put this simple, yet profound principle into practice to shift and transform the way you perceive and relate to your efforts.

If you always try your best, you can trust that its always enough.

Honor Where You’re At

Our best can and will change from moment to moment. Just like the ever-changing, impermanent nature of life, our capacity to kick-ass and take names will vary on many circumstances.

Our health, mood and energy levels will all influence what our best looks like at any given moment. At times our best may feel high quality, while others, not as much.

For instance, our energy first thing in the morning versus after a long day of work will yield different capacities for what our best looks like.

Learn and know that this is more than acceptable.

By always doing our best according to where we are at in this moment, we can strive and excel when we feel rested, healthy and powerful, while honoring our needs with cautious pace when we’re not feeling super charged.

By honoring our natural cycles of plowing forward and receding back for recuperation, we allow ourselves to live in accordance with our natural waxing and waning experience.

There are times and activities of speed and exhilaration that can multiply our enthusiasm and energy on some days, that can burn us out and leave us depleted at other times.

Tune in with what your best looks like at any given moment.

By doing so, you preserve your precious energy to excel in all you pursue with a greater care and attention to your sustainability and longevity. By doing so, you go with yourself instead of against.

Curb Your Inner Critic

So you were able to knock out a full-laundry list of chores in one morning, while juggling deadlines and showing up early for your business lunch?

Cut yourself some slack for not feeling mega juiced up to knock out more come the evening.

Put your foot down towards self-judgment and self-abuse.

Dismiss the inner critic that may size up and compare your previous performances and achievements. Understand and observe with skillful view that many of our habitual patterns have been firmly established through countless experiences and affirmations. We may not always create change or bring goals to fruition at the speed in which we desire, but we can always try our best.

Recognize your energy levels, mood, and the quality of your experience in your body (Are you feeling relaxed or tense?) as signals and communication from your body of what your needs are.

Don’t give your inner judgments permission to neglect and deny time for vital self-care and rejuvenation practices.

If you strive to do your best in each moment, you can eliminate the urge to judge yourself, dissolving needless blame, guilt and self-punishment.

When and if the inner critic rears its head, casting doubt and criticisms of your efforts, you know you’ve got the answer:

“I did my best, and that’s always enough.”

Dissolve Remorse

Your best is always enough.

Chances are, life has already dished out enough experiences to show you that things won’t always go the way we want them to. Despite the ebbs and flows of life not perfectly aligning with our preferences at all times, we are granted countless opportunities throughout our lives to show up to the best of our abilities.

From the easeful, joyous, celebration times to challenging, “didn’t see that coming”, bumps in the road, if we arrive to each moment of our life willing and able to do the best we can, we can dissolve any remorse or regret.

With this one simple truth, we can liberate ourselves from the mental bondage of self-accusation and regretfulness.

Give yourself permission to celebrate your earnest efforts in all circumstances and expressions of your life.

It is more than enough.

Inspired by Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.”



9 Ideas to Reduce Your Waste

With the current state of the environment, from ocean water temperatures rising, freakish and dangerous weather patterns becoming the norm and the widespread devastation of natural habitats, just to name a few circumstances of this heartbreaking situation, there’s no doubt that the Earth is rejoicing at the ever growing trend of low/zero waste.

As choosing green trends, culturally, we are beginning to wake up and take responsibility for the ways in which our daily choices are contributing to the issues.

Sadly, the United States has its work cut out for itself. As the leading nation of annual trash production at the staggering rate of 4.4 pounds of municipal waste per person each day, the time is ripe for us to adjust our practices and reduce our waste.

Because caring for our planet is love.

1. Hop On the Reusable Bags Train

The Ugly
  • Americans use 100 billion plastic bags per year, the majority of which
  • Wind up in landfills and
  • Sorrowfully are consumed by wildlife, commonly seabirds and turtles, leading to their premature deaths and great decline in population size.
The Good
  • Thankfully, city governments throughout the country are banning single-use plastic bags.
  • Even if your city hasn't yet reached this verdict, there’s no reason to wait. You can make the choose to plan ahead and bring reusable bags with you wherever you go. I like to leave one in the back of my car so that I’m never without!
  • There are tons of options, but I like the reusable shopping bag by Chico Bag.

2. Bring Your Own

The Ugly
  • One of the greatest sources of waste creation in our lives is due to our food purchases that come in packaging.

The Good

  • Choosing to skip the pre-wrapped products will not only reduce the amount of trash you create, but may lead to healthier food choices as well.
  • Instead of purchasing pre-made and processed foods wrapped in plastic and cardboard, make your food pickings from the produce and bulk aisles instead.
  • By bringing your own mason jars, mesh bulk bags, and reusable produce bags you can skip the plastic bags provided by stores and instead set a shining example on how to refuse and instead reuse.

3. “No Straw Please”

The Ugly
  • Over 500,000,000 plastic straws are used each day in the United States.
  • After its single use, we toss straws to the trash with no thought, turning them into an instant source of plastic pollution.
The Good
  • We only started using straws to this extent in the past twenty years. We are not yet so indoctrinated that we can't turn things around.
  • Consider requesting your drink orders without the straw or bring a reusable one of your own!
  • Reusable straws come in acrylic, stainless steel, glass, and even bamboo.

4. Switch Your Wraps

The Ugly
  • 30% of all waste in the U.S. is from packaging. So while you maybe in the habit of using plastic wrap to preserve your food, it’s not the most considerate choice for the planet.
The Good

5. Bye, Bye Plastic Bottles

The Ugly
  • In 2016, 334 million metric tons of plastic was produced, half of which was used for single-use products like plastic bottles.
  • Less than 10% of that plastic will ever be recycled.
  • Statistics like this are absolutely unacceptable with the choices available to us today.
The Good
  • One of the easiest things we can do to reduce our waste is to choose to hydrate ourselves with reusable water bottles.
  • If you have a reusable bottle already, I encourage you to use it. But if you’re looking for a product you can feel good about supporting, consider purchasing a Hydro Flask.
  • Not only do they create a high quality product, Hydro Flask also funds Parks for All, which “provides grants to non-profit organizations focused on building, maintaining, restoring, or providing better access to parks,” which makes your investment in their products an investment in our park’s wilderness too.

6. Say “No” to Disposables

The Ugly
  • To-go meals are super convenient, but they come in single-use styrofoam, often the kind that can't be recycled. Some, luckily, do come in recyclable plastic, but this is still a product that creates more waste than it saves.
The Good
  • Something is better than nothing. Even if you can't get zero-waste take-out, you can ask them to please not put any plastic forks or condiments that you won't use. Instead, bring your own.
  • To-Go Ware is a company I feel really proud to support, as we share similar visions and dreams for a transformed “to-go” culture that has lead us to creating excessive plastic waste.\
  • Their travel bamboo utensil sets are reusable and made with a commitment to being environmentally responsible, making these transportable utensil sets super eco-friendly.
  • Don’t feel called to invest in an additional product? Then simply travel with a set of utensils from your home in your purse or backpack.
  • Toss out the “throw away” approach and commit to reuse today!

7. Brush With Biodegradables

The Ugly
  • Nearly 5 billion plastic toothbrushes are made annually, and it takes each brush 400 years to decompose.
  • This overwhelming statistics makes me think of how many plastic toothbrushes I have used throughout my life thus far, sitting in a landfill somewhere, destined to never biodegrade.
  • Multiply that reality by the number of people purchasing plastic toothbrushes in the world and that visual becomes that much more alarming.
The Good
  • As I educated myself more on the reality of today’s plastic pollution, I started to investigate and switch my purchasing habits to reusable or biodegradable products. Toothbrushes are no exception, and this is what led me to discover the people behind the Mable bamboo toothbrush.
  • The folks at Mable are on a mission to inspire others to make a difference by making small, sustainable choices, one toothbrush and classroom at a time. Not only have they made a chic, eco-friendly, 100% biodegradable toothbrush, but they also visit schools in their local community through their Buy Give Teach program, empowering youth to utilize the power they have to affect change.
  • In order for our changes to have the greatest impact, they need to reach others. Let’s come together to stop adding to the problem, cut our plastic use and be part of the solution.

8. Cups Over Trash

The Ugly
  • In her lifetime, a woman will dispose 300 pounds of waste through menstrual products alone. Holy guacamole.
The Good
  • In the past, we may have turned to disposable menstrual products, because we were led to believe they were our only choice.
  • Thankfully, today, we have a wide variety of reusable products, from menstrual cups to reusable pads, that are not only kind to the Earth, but better honor our bodies too. Consider these recommendations below:
  • Natural sea sponge tampons
  • Diva Cups
  • Created by a mother and daughter duo committed to making periods a more positive experience for all women.
  • Thinx Panties
  • A company committed to female empowerment, smashing through the period taboo culture.
  • DIY Cloth Pads
  • For a fraction of the cost of the above mentioned products, you can empower yourself to make your own reusable cloth pads… extra “Go Green!” points if you up-cycle clothing that you are no longer using to make them with.

9. Choose Paperless

The Ugly
  • From junk mail to credit card bills, it doesn’t take long for our mailboxes to overflow with envelopes and fliers. Now imagine how many forest and trees had to be clear cut in the production of their paper?
The Good
  • One of the simplest steps we can take to reduce our waste while minimizing our clutter is by switching over to paperless. It's as easy as logging into your accounts and clicking a button.
  • Also, if you’re a lover of books, magazines or newspapers, consider switching over to their digital forms and reading them on the electronic reader of your choice.
  • Prefer the smell and feel of books, then commit to purchasing used books or host book swaps with your neighbors, colleagues and friends. Gifting books when you're done is another great option.

Living Our Values

As consumers, we have tremendous power to influence the greater, flawed systems of our societies. Our current system reaps resources from our planet as if they will infinitely be abundant.

But the truth is, our modern way of living is depleting a very finite natural world that will seize to provide if we do not change our ways.

We can strive to send nothing to the landfill. We can shift our expectations of what we need, reuse as much as we can, send minimally to be recycled and compost what we cannot.

Refuse. Reduce. Reuse. Rot. Recycle.

It’s not about perfection, but about making better choices.

Want to see more of my Zero Waste alternative product picks? Click here.



How to Completely Transform Your Life

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
– C. Joybell C.

We all experience life through the lens and perspective of our inner monologue. And too often, this commentary has been driven by pure negativity. We easily get caught in patterns of pessimism and become more likely to cast judgment, doubt and heavy criticism towards ourselves when things go wrong.

With effort and intention, we all have the power to shift this inner self-talk and sustain an affirmative and cheerful outlook on life.

Change the Script

What we focus on grows.

So if your inner dialogue is spouting off ideas about yourself that limit you, make you feel less than you are or that you are not worthy of achieving your dreams, it is time to shift your narrative.

Try it with me now:

“I am no longer a victim of my past. I clear away any thoughts and beliefs that are no longer serving me. All my thoughts propel me into the direction I wish to be.”

Create your own, and use it as a mantra and tool to remind yourself daily. It's important to practice this when you're in a good place, as it's the habit that will drive you forward when you're in a not so good place.


Don’t Dwell on the Gloom

Its clear how great of an impact this inner voice can have on our experience.

We can see this easiest when we make mistakes in our lives.

In these moments, we are vulnerable to the self-deprecating messages that rain heavily upon us for tripping up. Perhaps you’ve been replaying the same thought in response to missteps since you were a child. Maybe there was someone in your life that made you feel immense guilt and shame for your oversights, telling you things like, “You’ll never amount to anything,” or “You can’t do anything right.”

While we can’t change what others have said to us as a result of our shortcomings, we can change how we react to our mistakes today, because they will happen, to all of us.

Change the script and instead affirm,

“I choose to learn and grow from my mistakes.”

  • writing three things you are proud about yourself
  • writing three things you think you would like to work on/improve

With this approach, you can applaud your efforts in each scene while being optimistic and constructive in how you can grow and integrate lessons from your experiences.

Celebrate Your Greatness

There’ll be no shortage of critics trying to chop us down on our path. So why allow your inner voice to be one of them?

By focusing on our best qualities, we nourish them and give permission for our self-appreciation to blossom and grow.

Make a list of your best qualities.
  • What are your natural talents and gifts?
  • What characteristics do your loved ones value in you most?
  • What important roles do you fulfill in your life that adds value to those around you?

If you feel discouraged if these traits don’t come to you quickly, please don’t give up.

Choose to persevere.

I promise that for every negative message that replays in your head, there is a positive truth that you live today to override it with

Choose Uplifting Company

In order for us to clean out the negative clutter of our minds, we need to be cautious of what messages we receive, consume and surround ourselves with.

We won’t always be able to control what messages influence us, but we do have the choice of who we surround ourselves with.

You are so deserving of friends that reflect your beauty and uniqueness.

The further you trek on this road of positive self-talk, the greater confidence and joy you will emanate, increasing your magnetism to people of similar vibrations.

Make room for them by refusing to accept anyone who drags you down or nourishes negative thinking about yourself.

Shape Your Life

Positive self-talk does not aim to deceive us of the truth of life.

I trust you have lived and learned enough from your own experiences to know there will be difficulties in life. We will experience hardships, and we will make mistakes.

The way we relate to these occurrences will influence how we cope and navigate them.

Positive self-talk is an opportunity to see the silver lining in each challenging circumstance we endure, knowing that all that we welcome has the potential to transform us.

If we allow ourselves to perceive it, we can see the truth that each happening in our life manifests to move us forward in our own enhancement and to continue moving forward.

Love + light,


Why Loving Yourself Must Come First in Relationships

Many of us spend exuberant amounts of mental, physical, emotional and financial energy in our pursuit of achieving and sustaining long-lasting romantic relationships.

From day-dreaming of “the one,” consuming books, videos and articles on how to charm your “twin flame”, paying for online dating services and investing in cosmetics and apparel to lure and attract our prince or princess charming, the majority of us share this common thread of desire: we want love and we want it now.

We are tricked into believing that we should feel empty, undesirable or as if something is wrong with us if we live any extended period of our life being single.

We make the mistake going into relationships with the belief that someone else will resolve the feeling that something has been missing in our lives.

In no way am I saying the desire to meet someone compatible to our visions, dreams, values and pursuits to co-create our lives with is wrong.

To the contrary, I think a loving, supportive and accepting partnership that aids in our self-growth and development is one of the sweetest blessings to experience in this life.

I am simply saying that we shouldn’t accept misery and a sense of unrelenting attachment in our seeking.

Choose Yourself

When we look to a lover for feelings of security and affirmation, we actually deny ourselves the opportunity to gift those very things to ourselves.

Commit to yourself today.
Commit to waking up every morning and choosing you every single day.
Commit to accepting yourself radically and without condition.
Commit to seeing clearly your perfection and flawlessness in the very way you wish for a romantic partner to.

Ask yourself today:

  • What passions have you been neglecting?
  • In what ways could you better support your own growth of character?
  • What self-care practices have you read of but simply haven’t made the decision to incorporate into your life?
  • How can you love yourself better?

We attract what we are. We must become the very things we long for from a partner.

Make Yourself Your Greatest Lover

Instead of trying to control and manipulate the flow of life, attempting to force romance to surface at your will, what if you chose to instead cultivate yourself to be your greatest lover?

Trust that somewhere out in the world, the person or people who you will share legendary and life-changing love with already exist and chances are, they’re longing and dreaming of meeting you too.

In due time, likely when you least expect it, this chance meeting will occur. When it does, you’ll be able to present yourself as the fascinating, passionate, adventure-living, independent badass that you are, because instead of being the lonesome princess locked away in the tower awaiting her savior, you’ll be the captain of your own life, living with intention, joy and purpose.

Love Yourself Where You’re At

What does it mean to commit to yourself?

It means to create and build a relationship with yourself where you realize you are complete and whole as you are right now.

That there’s no man, woman, job or circumstance that can happen to you that will make you more whole, because you already are.

This means you’re going to love yourself right where you are… not when you score your dream job or lose ten pounds, but right now, already in your perfection.

This means you can and will forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Through this, you will learn that you are a person you can count on. You will realize that you’re the person that will always be there for you, until the end.

And through this you are able to love others exactly where they are, because you have learned how to first do that for yourself.

This kind of love, without expectation, demands or condition, is a force that will not only liberate and set yourself free, but your future beloved too.

It is the kind of love that allows others to feel safe to be exactly who they are, granting permission to let down their guards and be embraced and adored just as they are.



“Marry yourself first. Promise never to leave you!” -Sark

Giving Your Body the Rest it Deserves: Self-Care Practices

Regardless of your lifestyle choices, occupation and day-to-day demands, life sees to it that our bodies will experience a little wear and tear. No one is above this, and as we age, the impact of this accumulation of tension and stress is felt with greater blatancy. That is why incorporating self-care practices into our routine is so important.

Thankfully, we have the choice to perceive this as an invitation to gift our bodies with some much deserved tender, love and care.

With our busy hustle and bustle modern lives, our well being of our precious vessels can often be overlooked.

Feeling pain and discomfort from some being on-the-go nonstop?

Take this as an opportunity to listen to the needs and demands of your body.

  • What is your body communicating to you?
  • How can you better show up for your recuperation so that you can achieve your goals with more comfort, health and joy?

Take a moment to write these questions down, and genuinely answer them for yourself. Then see how you feel about adding in some of these actionable self-care practices.

1. Self-Massage for Ultimate Care

We don’t need to wait until available hands offer to rub our tired and sore muscles when we have the tender care of our own.

Self-massage is one of my favorite forms of self-care and self-love because it feels like a deliberate act of gratitude for all that my body does for me.

Self-care practices for self-massage can be as simple as:

  • Rubbing tight muscles after a session at the gym
  • Patting your hands down your thighs after sitting at your desk for extended periods of time
  • Foam rolling tight spots while watching your favorite show


  • Send loving thoughts and appreciation to your body. Thank it for supporting you in getting all your daily tasks done.
  • Save money by using common items such as a tennis ball to release hard to reach trigger points and deeply held knots.

– You can find free resources, articles and videos on Youtube that show how to self-massage.

2. Stretch and Expand

Whether it’s only a few minutes a day or a commitment to a full yoga session or class, any and all efforts to extend and expand your muscles is a medicine your body will thank you deeply for.

Self-care practices include:

  • Attending a yoga class or using a YouTube instructor to start practicing in your own home.
  • Invite a friend or co-worker to build motivation and accountability from each other.
  • Moving intuitively: Use your own unique stretching experience by truly leaning into the needs of your body. Follow the shapes, pathways and movements that provide release, ease and pleasure. If it's painful, try a different stretch. It should not hurt!

3. Scan and Unravel

If you haven’t practiced body scan meditations before, rest assured that anyone can do it, and there’s no right or wrong way to do so.

Not only are body scans an efficient way to support recovery and healing for the body, but it’s also a beautiful practice to cultivate a deeper, more intimate relationship with your precious body.

Self-care practices for connecting with your body are:

  • Find a comfortable position. I prefer to lay on the floor with a blanket wrapped around me or on a cozy bed surrounded by pillows. Or perhaps you’ll enjoy trying this in the shower. Choose whatever environment and conditions best suits your needs to unwind and be present.
  • Connect to your breath. Follow and feel the sensation of each inhale and exhale. With each cycle of breathing, invite your attention more and more to rest within your body. Explore the sensations of your chest or stomach rising and falling with each breath. Feel into the different ways your body interacts with your breathing.
  • Starting at the soles of your feet and slowly working towards your head, rest your awareness on each region of your body.
  • While scanning each part of your body (calves, thighs, hips, torso, etc.) notice if you come upon any places of tension, pain or discomfort. When you feel an uncomfortable spot, stay with it.
  • With your exhale, allow this tension to dissolve away, imagining the discomfort slipping away from your body and being absorbed by the earth.

3. Bath Bliss

After a long day at work or a grueling week at school, it’s a fine time to draw yourself a hot bath and plunge into some revitalization.

Self-care practices for bath rituals include:

  • Candles
  • Epsom salts
  • Bath bombs
  • Essential oils
  • Relaxing music
  • A good book or audiobook

…and you're well on your way to ultimate relaxation.

4. You Are Worthy

Self-care practices include working on your thoughts and beliefs. You are worthy of your care, time and attention.

Many of us have not been taught how to give ourselves the time and care necessary to lead healthy and vibrant lives.

Give yourself permission to learn and practice the immense self-care tools that are available to us today.

Reject anyone and any belief that tells you to feel shame or guilt for investing in your own wellbeing. Self-care practices are healthy and important.

You are worthy of feeling comfortable, relaxed and strong in your body.



“Caring for your body, mind, and spirit is your greatest and grandest responsibility. It's about listening to the needs of your soul and then honoring them.” –Kristi Ling